Written by Nina Grunfeld Monday, 09 December 2013 09:22
This weekend, faced with a whole load of rather overwhelming tasks, my entire family has been procrastinating like mad.
My husband has been doing what he calls ‘concealed procrastination’. This means that he’s been looking at the 24-hour BBC news website every few minutes, just in case something new happens that might be relevant to his work and doing some online reading of things directly relevant to his work – but not the work he’s meant to be doing.
I suppose I’ve been doing ‘concealed procrastination’ too in that I’ve been emptying my emails, rather than getting on with creating our website.
One of my daughters has been glued to facebook, rather than getting on with the extra tasks she’s doing for her job.
My other daughter has been glued to the Daily Mail website and Buzzfeed, rather than finishing her end of term projects.
My son has been watching YouTube videos. Well, it’s almost the end of term.
What I want to know is how on earth we procrastinated before the internet?
Written by Nina Grunfeld Monday, 02 December 2013 09:20
I remember once going to a film screening - Forbidden, since you ask, a film that was written about my father's cousin's life in Nazi Germany - and noting with amusement that all the actors were crying at the end of the film.
'That's so strange' I said to my family 'how can they cry at something they've created themselves?'
I tell you this only because I felt a real hypocrite the other day when I had a Lifebulb Moment in a workshop of my creation.
Yes, I've done the workshop before - many times in fact - but that didn't stop me having a new and powerful learning.
We were pitching for a new client and my colleague was running the workshop with me as participant. It was a workshop about giving feedback in which there are three rules:
1. Know the reason you want to give the feedback.
2. Say something nice (and relevant) first.
3. Ask them what they think of the situation.
But, what I realised is that when I want to get something off my chest I tend to just want to do it without asking questions of the other person. I mean... do I care what they think...really when I'm as het up as I am?!
Thanks to my partner in the workshop we came up with a few good questions and I felt very relieved and also what a good idea it was to get the other person involved in the conversation before I let rip.
My Lifebulb Moment was that I need to think more about those relevant, probing questions.
Thank goodness that's what this week's workshop is all about.
What could stop me going to that?
Written by Nina Grunfeld Monday, 25 November 2013 09:05
You couldn't miss Dr Who this weekend. Whether streamed to 74 or 93 countries simultaneously, it was all over the papers, internet and TV.
I started thinking about what I could learn from the stories in Dr Who (apart from some fairly ropey history) and began fantasising about regeneration.
I'd had a row with my daughter earlier in the day and was full of self-loathing and regret. A lot of 'if only I hadn't said X and Y' was going through my head and I thought how useful it would be, much as in Richard Curtis's awful film About Time. If I could turn back the clock, regenerate and come back as a lovely Mum who always knew the right things to say and was able to really make her daughter understand how much she loved her.
Regeneration could be useful so often it's amazing really how rarely they do it in Dr Who. Thirteen doctors in 50 years seems pretty modest.
I'm about to regenerate into an effective boss right now, then a good friend at the end of the day and finally a loving mother and wife...
Dr Who would be exhausted just watching me.
Written by Nina Grunfeld Monday, 18 November 2013 10:50
In my twenties I worked as a graphic designer.
In our studio we used to design packaging and our brief was always to create a package that would show the product off to its best advantage. It meant studying these lamps, biscuits, socks etc. to find out what was unique and interesting about them and then designing packaging to show off those special features.
That similarity between designing packaging and creating a cv (or resume) for someone has always fascinated me. Just like lamps, biscuits and socks, we’re all unique too. A lamp can be brass or bronze or aluminium and hang from a ceiling or wall or sit on a desk or floor and, in the same way, we can be logical or creative, quick or contemplative, extrovert or introvert - you get the idea.
Each of us have unique features that create someone special.
It is relatively easy to look at a lamp – or even another person - and notice what makes them special and unique. But it’s so much harder to notice what makes us special.
One way of starting is to keep observing yourself and noticing what you like and dislike. That will give you a solid foundation as to who you are and what’s important to you.
Another way is to notice what you admire about others, because just the fact that you admire it means that it’s a part of you too.
Let me give you an example.
I always massively admired my mother’s fantastic imagination. When we were young she used to make up the most wonderful stories for us. Just noticing it in her means it’s a core value for me, but I can’t make up wonderful stories. Luckily, I can see that I am imaginative in other ways. I create interiors, photographs and … yes, even businesses!
Keep noticing and keep learning about yourself. What could be more exciting?
Packaging you is the most wonderful thing of all.
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